When we have nothing, it’s easy to play to win.
This brings out our competitive edge; it’s based on courage.
But when we achieve what we originally wanted, it’s easy to shift into playing not to lose.
This suppresses our best; it’s based on fear.
Perhaps the next level is playing to play.
Leaning in just because we have an inner need to do the work.
Perhaps that’s when we do our truly best work.
If you keep saying ‘the bad guy won’ and judging everyone who supports them as an idiot, then you are playing right into the ‘good vs evil’ fallacy.
At the South Island Show Jumping Champs late last year, my daughters won the classes they were entered in.
A while ago we were at a horse show. Zara and I walked the course, and I read the jump off and told Zara what it was.