If you’re buying your lunch from someone, what happens if he’s 20cms shorter than you?
Probably nothing, it’s no distraction, nothing to upset you.
What if he’s from another country?
What if his skin colour is a different colour?
What if he has tattoos?
What if he’s wearing a burka?
What if he uses slang you don’t like?
At some point, most people reach a level of discomfort, when our differences begin to distract us and we fixate on those differences.
Then all we see are the differences.
And we put up barriers.
It’s a lot more productive to look for what’s similar.
There’s always more in common; attitudes, experience, desires, beliefs…
And we connect.
Mindfulness meditation, when done regularly over a long period of time, helps to create space between stimulus and response.
We wouldn’t give away parts of our properties. We wouldn’t give away our money without a positive reason.